A few important questions to ask for a successful argument:

• Will arguing my viewpoint benefit the other person? 
• Am I too emotional?
• Am I too dedicated to my viewpoint?
• Am I excited when they say something wrong?
• Am I looking for validation?
• Am I speaking more than I’m listening?

If the answer to any of these is yes, then your head isn’t ready to argue yet.

Then ask…

• Am I empathizing?
• Do I know what they value?
• Do I know why they’re arguing for what they’re arguing for?
• Have I clearly communicated the reason behind my argument?
• Am I prepared to compromise?
• Am I giving them the benefit of the doubt?

If the answer to any of these is no, then your heart isn’t ready to argue yet.

The truth is always found somewhere between your beliefs and others’. Always. No matter how wrong they seem.

If you prepare your heart and mind for that reality, then arguments become generous acts of back and forth for the sake of a deeper discovery of truth.

We both win.

And man…

Imagine the world we would live in if we approached it that way.